say "no," get chocolate!!!

 

i'm a little bit of a passive person. i don't like to inconvenience or upset people, so i have trouble saying "no" to others, and i have trouble standing up for myself when i'm being mistreated. it's something i've been trying to work on.

i've been doing better at it lately.  it's kind of small in the grand scheme of things, but i've been standing my ground and giving a polite but firm no when others overstep. i find that it goes both ways, though -- the people i love appreciate the communication, and i appreciate their willingness to listen. we both appreciate the others' mutual respect.

(on the other hand, strangers have gotten angry with me sticking up for myself, but after getting over the initial shock of such a bizarre reaction, all i can do is giggle. does this make me sadistic or something...?)



it seems kind of obvious writing it all down, and maybe it's a little late in life to learn this skill as a twenty-three year old adult BUUUT i'd rather be a late learner than continue to have the backbone and self-respect of a soggy doormat, right. it's been good for me and my relationships.

and because i am SPOILED and PAMPERED like a LITTLE DOG OF SORTS, my partner took me out to a cafe for "good job not being a wimp" dessert. (my words, not theirs, they're very nice to me.) i dressed up because it makes me happy and i'm running low on cool air-conditioned opportunities to wear this fashion (oh my god please end summer forever.)

coord rundown
jsk - melty cream doughnut, angelic pretty
cutsew - sleepyland
beret - angelic pretty
socks - angelic pretty
shoes - LIEF
accessories - dolly house, offbrand

i don't have too much to say about the outing itself -- i've been to this cafe once before (it was during a meet with my comm! i hadn't heard of it before.) and had been hankering to go again. i brought my old childhood 2DS to play some animal crossing there, ready for a casual, relaxed evening.

 

we totally did not account for dinner hours. 
 

the cafe is completely different in the evening. rather than being the usual casual affair where you go up and order at the counter, they really turn it into a restaurant experience with properly-made tables, fancy menus, and waiters. it was super busy, with lots of people dining both indoors and outdoors. i was extra glad i dressed up, then!! but maybe a little sheepish about bringing an old video game lol.

 

i put my DS away quickly after this, but i wanted my quirky photo dammit

 i still had a wonderful time. deciding to stay on-theme with my full-chocolate pastry getup, i got a chocolate macaron and a chocolate mousse cake. they were soooo beautiful and delicious, super refreshing during this hot summer we're having. (though i still think my favorite thing thus far was the pistachio cake i had last time!)

 

conclusion?? does every blog post i make have to have some kind of reflective or positive conclusion? uhhhhhhh. respect yourself, respect others, be comfortable saying "no" and accepting rejection? solid life advice probably.